...to those of you who have said something about my population theory...theres a lot i havent considered and i thank you for having intelligent responses...though i wouldnt mind hearing from the moms i have on my friends list as to what they think about having a kid already and any future for other children...(i think everyone that did respond is childless)...i hope to actually gather all this information up and do something with it...not sure what just yet...at the very least ill educate myself...